I wanted to share some advice or perspective I give my college self-defense students that I think is relatable to anyone who has taken a self-defense or martial arts class. I have just started my spring semester of collegiate self-defense courses; we just did a round of FAST courses, and I just recently trained with someone I enjoy learning from in self-defense/gunfighting. I am glad to interact with so many people taking their safety seriously, but here is something everyone needs to remember: self- defense is a process….it isn’t a “take a class, check the box, and move on” type of thing. People treat it as though they were renewing their driver’s license or getting a checkup at the doctor (at least a checkup might be a semi- regular event, which is better than what we get). In my self-defense classes I use this following illustration. Please keep in mind that my numbers are completely arbitrary, so don’t fixate on them. But let us say that at the beginning of the course you have a 30% chance of defending yourself, and after the class that number goes to 55%. Still not great odds…but a heck of a lot better than where you came in at! Now, it is important to note that this number is never going to be 100%. As we say at the end of FAST class, we could all get shot by a 12- year-old in the parking lot while leaving. The process is not about invincibility. I think part of the problem with the check the box mentality is that there is a BIG difference between those two metaphorical numbers of 30 and 55%. A little goes a long way, and when people get a taste of such empowerment, they think they are set. But there are certainly degrees. Another analogy I use in my college courses is learning basketball. If none of them had dribbled a ball before, I don’t think they would have delusions of walking onto the varsity team at the end of the semester. But somehow in the realm of self-defense, that is exactly what people do… I am going to take a semester of self-defense and I will be good. I have checked the box. Now, if you have taken a FAST class or other self-defense course, or a handgun class, then kudos. I don’t mean to trivialize your previous efforts. There is an adage in the martial arts that a white belt is still higher rank than the person at home still on the couch. A well respected self-defense instructor, Tony Blauer, relates a relevant story: On an airplane he was talking to the woman next to him and what he did as a profession came up. He told her and she commented that she had always wanted to take a self-defense class. “No you haven’t.” he replied. As she was taken aback, he continued, “I think what you meant to say is that you hope you will never find yourself in a situation where you would have needed a self[1]defense class.” There was probably ample time for her to have taken one if she had truly wanted. Again, if you have taken some type of training, kudos to you for getting further along than most. But you still can’t just check the box. So the question becomes what are you going to do with that metaphorical 55%? I would hope that you find a way to continue to get that number higher. If nothing else, then go for that checkup occasionally. Other people will say that they are good with that 55% and do little else. That is obviously not my preference for you, but at least you are hopefully making that decision from a more informed position. If you want to take your chances with that percentage, ok, but recognize that is what is happening, and don’t think you are good because you put a checkmark on some magical box
. • Randy King shared the check the box mentality with me during a recent podcast, and I shared my basketball analogy with him.